Many, many moons and
tides ago, I posted this on Facebook. I think I was emotional distressed when I wrote this. Time to share it here on my blog because I know this message
holds true not just for me but also for anyone else in difficult times. I hope this
inspires you a bit to get up and keep going.
Living with an alcoholic father for years and years rings a
message for me... In living with him I learned one crucial thing - never depend
on anyone or anything, or else it will control your life. I've seen how he sank
deep in his dependence due to many family-related issues and that is saddening.
We either give in to these trials and eventually become dependent on something
or someone or we can regain ourselves and remain steadfast as we march on. We
owe it to ourselves to look after ourselves. Or others, if we could manage.
I've also seen many people suffer from heartbreak and depression because they
depended their happiness on someone and that, again, is saddening. We can't expect others to care for us if we
don't take care of ourselves. We will remain helpless and languish with it if
we don't help ourselves.
I've also seen a number of people who, despite being alone
in life, learned how to live with it and they thrived despite of it. I guess I’d
be the latter.
For parents, don't expect too much from your children. They
will marry, have family, and have a home of their own. Be thankful if they
remain with you and care for you until old age but also know how to prepare
yourself when time comes when the nest becomes empty and all you have beside
you is your loyal attendant.
For couples, don't expect too much for your partners. There
comes a time when even the sweetest love will have to leave the door, feet
first. it could be heart breaking but that's how life goes. Embrace your
alone-ness when that time comes.
In the end what we have are memories, so cherish it, live
gracefully, love unconditionally, and build a strong connection with people
around us. Everything is fleeting. After all, we die alone, so we have to
embrace the fact that at a certain point, we have to live alone.
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